So, You Had a Bad Day?

This is my theory:

Have you ever noticed... that when you have a bad day, it's often followed by a good day? Or that when you have a good day, it's often followed by a bad day? My theory is that. And this is my reasoning behind it:

When you have a bad day, your standards for what a good day would be like become lower. A good day could have been..... finding $100 on the sidewalk. But then you had a bad day and your standards were lowered. Now a good day could be.... finding a penny in the parking lot. Meaning that you're easier to please after a bad day.

When you have a good day, your standards are lifted, meaning what you expect out of tomorrow can end up being wildly impossible. For example, say you have a good day, you're inner-consciously going to expect more tomorrow. Meaning that yesterday a good day could have been getting some free candy. But after your good day, the next day, you're going to expect to get free cake.

Do you follow?

Now, keep in mind, this is just a theory, and it is one that I will likely not test. Meaning this could be false, it's currently just an educated opinion.

Think about the Becker "rubber band theory". What is the Becker Rubber Band Theory, you ask? Alright, obviously you don't watch enough TV. The Becker Rubber Band Theory is that every time a good thing happens to you the "imaginary" rubber band stretches. And once enough good things happen the rubber band is so stretched that it snaps and one great big terrible thing happens. For example Becker found his really expensive pen, some guy returned his wallet without taking any money from it, and lots of other good things happened. Then, the rubber band snapped, and he got mugged and the mugger stole all of his things including the pen.

All of the above are untested theories. This makes me wonder, how many untested theories are there out there? And what percentage of them are true? And what percentage of those could change the world? But this obviously isn't my point, and is likely to be brought up later!

Back to the point.. Using the above theories, consider the following:

Think about people who's lives are arguably perfect (since no one's life is truly perfect, and if it is then that person should be really worried about when it's going to end, there for ending the perfection). Say this person with an arguably perfect life, you can use common sense to assume that lots of good things have been happening to this person.

Now, using my theory: this person's standards are either really high, or constantly raising, or both, meaning that this person could crack at any possible hand gesture, like a wave "hi" from the wrong person, or even no wave "hi" from a certain person. Meaning that this person with a great life is about to fall on some hard times.

Using the Becker Rubber Band Theory: This person who's life is going well, it's going well, it's going so well, that the rubber band is becoming really stretched, meaning it's going to hit them in the face even harder. Smack! The rubber band breaks. This is kind of like the people that win the lottery. It starts with just the joy of winning. Then the joy of shopping without looking at the price tags. Then the joy of using all of these new things. Then, you get carried away. All you want is more, more, more. Which leads the the snap/smack, you're more willing to do things for your money than your family. Which leads to divorce, and depressed children, and suicide (OK, maybe it doesn't quite go that far, but you get the pattern).

Now, looking at a person who's had just a terrible life! They've got no hope. No matter how hard they tried they failed school, they weren't even liked by anyone, and they're addicted to heroin, and they're homeless. Yeah, they're life sucks, thinking about even this made up character's life, you're appreciating your life more.

Using my theory: This person's expectations for a good day are LOW, LOW, LOW, LOW, LOW (yeah, I like that song, but the song Low, no matter how tempting to dance to, is not the point). Meaning, one, little bitty good thing could happen to this person, and they would smile. They would think twice before purchasing their heroin that next time they ran out. And I'm not talking about homeless people getting into a fist fight over a penny on the corner. I'm talking about, maybe..... a hand gesture (I'm running out of better examples, sorry). Maybe one person smiled and waved. And this lonely, depressed individual smiled and waved back, suddenly feeling better, feeling hope. Feeling that maybe, just maybe, that if they put their mind to it, and gave it their all - 150% - and they thought that they could improve their life. But then, the smiling, happy person leaves, and this sad fellow stops smiling and realizes that he gave his all, and tried his best and this is his life, and he's going to live it, no matter how painful it may be, because he'd rather feel pain than nothing at all (I know, I quote songs often, you should get used to it).

Think about Pay it Forward, it's a movie, it's a choice, it's even a song called the Chain of Love by Clay Walker (or I think it's Clay Walker). You're probably familiar with what pay it forward is, but if you live in a hole, I'll help you out: Pay it forward is when someone does something nice to you, you don't pay the person back up front, you do nice things to other people instead. The cute little boy in the movie had the idea, he thought that if he did nice things to three people and he didn't chose to pay them back, but instead told them to help three others, and so on. And he expected for that to change the world, that eventually everyone would be doing nice things for others. In the song the guy singing is driving to his ratty old home in his ratty car, then he sees this old lady on the side of the road with her Mercedes with a flat tire. He helps her fix it, then tells her to pay it forward. Then, the old lady goes into a diner and leave a $100 tip to her waitress. Then, it turns out that waitress was his wife. And the chain of love returned to him. It's a very nice fantasy world, isn't it?

So, now, when you think about this, and you mix it in with the above theories, the chain of love doesn't seem very powerful because bad things are going to happen anyway. But that's my point of this blog. Bad things are going to happen, and you can take notes and conjure up theories all you want, but life isn't perfect, and bad things are going to happen. But, with the help of these theories, you can't prevent bad things, but you can make bad things not seem as bad. Like for example, using my theory, after that bad day can be, guess what, a good one. Or you could even use my theory to say to yourself, I'm having a good day, I better not get carried away with myself and set my standards too high. Or using the Becker Rubber Band Theory you can say good things have happened and that could end soon, but at least I'll have _________. Like life, or at least you don't have cancer, at least you aren't addicted to anything, etc. Or even with pay it forward, you can know that you are making the world a better place, even though it isn't perfect, and never will be.

No One Ever Asks Why

No one ever asks why, however, knowing why something is can help you prevent it, or stop it. No one ever asks why people are addicted to things, yes, of course, you'll read about it in your health books as facts, but not to prepare you to avoid them. Why are people addicted to things?

There. I asked it. Like all of those Chinese people who are glued to their computers, or all of us Americans with our video games, then there are all of those people everywhere who are addicted to smoking, drugs, or alcohol. Why? In my opinion, from what I've noticed, they're lonely. And these particular things (computers, video games, cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol) will never abandon them. People will. These things will stay and do not judge them. People do.

So, now, back to those health books. The health books say that people will do drugs to fit in, and eventually it becomes an addiction. Let me rephrase this to make it follow my point: People will do drugs to fit in with other people, because they're lonely and they would do anything to have their friendship. However, those obviously aren't the brightest people on earth, because they don't realize that if they need to be high to be friends with these people that there must be SOME problem in the picture. But this blog is not about stupid people, it's about people who are addicted to something and why.

Have you noticed that there's a very fine line between an addiction and a habit? Habits just aren't generally bad, addictions are. I saw a movie once about this guy who had a very predictable life, he had formed several habits that were aligned with his watch. He had a habit of tieing his tie each morning. That's not such a bad thing. Other people have habits of smoking each morning. That is a bad thing. Except you would call the smoking an addiction, and wearing the tie a habit.

Webster dictionary says that a habit is a settled tendency or usual manor of behavior. It also says that an addiction is compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance. So back to my original point, a habit and an addiction are similar things.

Now, why should you care WHY people are addicted to things, I mean, you aren't? Or are you?

I Think. A lot. An Awful Lot.

I think a lot. An awful lot. Sometimes it's hard to stop thinking. Thinking isn't neccicarily a bad thing. For one example; (this is one of my many mottos) I always find myself either thinking too much and never making a decision, or thinking too little and immidiatly regretting what ever it is that I did. So, now, back on track here. Thinking.... dun, dun, dun... I had to write that. yes, I did, to satisfy my thoughts, I am thinking out click. I know, that made no sense to you. "I am thinking out click". What I meant by that was that as opposed to "thinking out loud" I'm "thinking out click" by typing exactly what I'm thinking without really thinking about it too much.

So, sense it's beginning to appear as if I have no point at all for this post... there is one: On this blog I'd like to make some posts that are just thoughts, and I think it would be nice for my readers to know that they aren't scientific theories to be tested in a lab over and over again. They're just thoughts and due to the fact that my mind takes some twisted turns these thoughts may be a little strange, or off. So, don't judge me.

I Wouldn't Call Myself Your Average Teenage Girl

Alright. This is my first post, so I better say something interesting. Maybe I should tell you about myself, sense I know how much everyone likes hearing about other people. *sarcasm* Well, my name is Valorie, but you probably could have figured that out by viewing the site a little more, if you haven't already. I wouldn't call myself your average teenage girl, just because I'm not real big on becoming someone I'm not to fit in. So, no, you won't be reading those stories told in all those Disney movies, if that's what you were expecting. However, I do like music, shopping, basketball, & basically anything fun. But you could probably take a poll of teens and they'd say they liked something close to those things. Maybe not basketball in particular, but who doesn't love sports? I know, there are 6 billion people on this planet, there have to be at least a million that don't like sports. But that still leaves a whole.... 5.9 billion to love them! My math might be off a little, but hey, who said I had to be right all the time?

So far, I haven't told you much, if anything I've confused you. I said I wasn't a normal teen, then I started listing everything about me that's true for most. What kind of a writer am I!?! Well, here's how I'm unnormal compared to most other people I've met:

1. I make up words like "unnormal"
2. I don't LOVE hip - hop or rap
3. I don't like to double space my sentences
4. I'm not a makeup wearer
5. I like redneck jokes and I will probably do any entire post of them

Well, that's all I feel like coming up with. Again, sense this is my first post, I should probably tell you about my reason for writing this blog (other than that I'm overly talkative and I love to type).

I made this blog because there are some girls in my grade who made their own website, and it seems cool, but I'm not a real close friend of their's so I didn't want to get too involved with their site, so I made my own. My goal for this blog is just to have some viewers, you know, some people that check like every week to see if I've written something new. I know my writing isn't that terrific, but it's a good goal anyway.

Now, if you aren't sleeping... (like you would do what I say anyhow)... if I haven't already put you to sleep... I'm gonna write some more posts. Please stay tuned in. I'll also be putting up pictures and coming up with a better poll that goes better with this particular post. I'm new to this, so I might even do something extra cool!